Ep 29. Lie-Hide-Repress-Deny: The cycle of gender-based violence

Nikki Bush discusses gender based violence with Ingrid Lotze who believes the world won’t change until we stop the lie, hide, repress, deny cycle that both victims and bystanders are trapped in. She draws on hard-learned lessons from being married to an abusive alcoholic; her work as volunteer in women’s empowerment; as well as her 25 years of business ownership. Ingrid is a two-time TEDx Speaker & TEDx panelist, a Diversity Equality & Inclusion advocate and gender equality champion. She co-founded and runs three businesses including Hers&His, a diversity and inclusion consultancy. For more information visit www.hers&his.co.za  

 

This conversation covers:

• The conspiracy of silence
• How victims support the cycle
• How bystanders support the cycle
• Cycle of violence from generation to generation
• The problem with “not my business, not my problem”
• Ingrid’s 3-step solution
• Cultivating community and connection
• How to speak up early and often
• Eliciting support and building allies – what to put in play and in place
• GBV awareness in the business environment – how to create a safe space
• Rethinking norms that are hard wired
• The importance of curiosity to create shift
• How lie, hide, repress and deny plays out in gender-based violence, racism, diversity and inclusion