May 9, 2022
We all hold secrets and shame for lots of different reasons. And we all have a fear of being found out. If you are trying to hide your trauma and shame, much like trying to hold a beach ball under water, it's futile and will steal your life force.
In this podcast episode I speak to Madeleine Black, an author, speaker, sexual violence activist, former psychotherapist and host of the acclaimed international podcast called Unbroken: healing through storytelling.
After decades of silence, Madeleine decided to share her own story publicly online in September 2014. And she completely underestimated what the response would be. She published her book Unbroken in 2017, a must read.
Madeleine is passionate about speaking out to end the shame, stigma and silence surrounding sexual violence and to help others find their courage and voice too.
March 31, 2022
If you have a pulse you have a purpose. I just love this line from my podcast guest this week, Angelique du Toit. So what is your purpose, regardless of what you have been through in your life; what keeps you here and keeps you going?
In this episode you will hear that fear is a force that you can either confront or run away from. You will be challenged about whether you are operating from inspiration or desperation, that you have to be in it to win it and you have to make a choice to make a change.
Angelique du Toit is a global speaker who has travelled the ups and downs of life and shares her wisdom and insights with such eloquence. She entered the world of work at the age of 14 out of necessity, as an apprentice hairdresser, coming from a background of abuse. She describes some of her crossroad moments in which she chose to do life differently, pulling her back from the brink of despair.
After her husband, Ernest's sudden passing at the end of 2019, Angelique was wrapping up his affairs in Italy in early 2020 when the global pandemic lockdown came into force. She spent most of that year isolated and grieving alone. Her mantra that I remember from the first talk of hers that I attended many years ago was to be put to the test once again, under extreme conditions: You win or you lose by the way that you choose.
Listen, learn and be inspired by our conversation.
March 7, 2022
If you want to reframe your relationship with time, intention and attention, then listen in to this fascinating conversation between Nikki Bush and Shelmina Abji about how to bring your A-game to both work and life. Her personal leadership principles apply to everyone, and focus on how we give intention to our time and attention. Is what you are involved in or committed to actually worthy of your attention?
Shelmina Abji is a gender equality in leadership advocate, author, speaker, former IBM VP. She is an angel investor and board member including the United Nations Foundation project, Girl Up. Shelmina has walked the walk from the dusty plains of Tanzania, where she was born, to the board rooms of top companies around the world, becoming one of the highest-ranking women of colour in IBM.
For more information visit https://shelmina.com or www.nikkibush.com
THE CONVERSATION COVERS:
- How women short-change themselves
- Stepping into your fear to grow and succeed
- Managing your mental chatter
- Developing your power quotient
- Giving intention to your time and attention
- Saying no without demeaning yourself or being apologetic
- Say not to gain respect and create space for yes
- Beware of the task trap
- How to go from busy to productive
- Your evolving picture of success
March 3, 2022
Whether you work in sales or not, everyone is in sales. Yes, even you! We are all promoting something to get support or buy in from someone. Business leaders and managers are selling a vision to get commitment and performance from their teams. Sales people sell products and services. Sports captains sell victory. Educators sell how to think and learn. Parents sell values and how to be in relationships. What are you selling?
Embrace the salesperson in you. Listen to my podcast interview with the tenacious and dynamic guru of sales, Shelley Walters. She is passionate about sales and shares her four Cs for sales success that you can apply to all areas of your life to build in more success and more margin: clarity, conviction, competence and confidence.
I have added a fifth C - contribution. If you can go to bed at night knowing that what you are selling is making a contribution to the world; making people's lives better in some way, then you can rest well at night.
Shelley Walters, is a speaker and the Founder of The Sales Counsel; creator of Africa's first Remote Selling School (accredited by the IISA); a sop Sales Keynote Speaker and winner of the PWC Gender Mainstreaming Award in the category "Inclusive Leader - Entrepreneur"
In this conversation we cover:
- Why everyone is in sales
- Why a stint in sales is a good foundation for anyone wanting to start their own business
- Why sales is an essential economic service – the success of job creation and the economy hinges on the success of sales people
- Why sales people will survive the fourth industrial revolution
- The four Cs of sales:
- Assertiveness and negotiation skills
- The link between sales and personal growth and development
- The difference between manipulation and motivation
- How to be a contributor through sales
www.thesalescounsel.co.za or www.shelleywalters.com
February 7, 2022
When have you taken a risk, changed direction or taken a leap of faith? When has your curiosity been greater than your fear and propelled you forward in your career or business development? Most of our real growth takes place on the fringes of discomfort when we are courageous enough to step into new spaces and do new things or do things differently.
Our lives are characterised by many crossroads moments - moments when we are called to make a decision. Yes or no. Commit or walk away. I shared a crossroad moment from my professional life with an online audience recently that I thought I would share this vulnerable conversation with you today.
Are you at a crossroad moment? Is it time for a leap for you? I hope this sharing will inspire you.
February 3, 2022
An addiction to busyness is becoming a pandemic in its own right. Learning when to stop and rest, or sensing when we need to stop and rest, is almost becoming a form of intelligence – let’s call it the self-care quotient. It requires us to be awake, aware and disciplined. It requires us to look after ourselves!
Last week I ran a poll on LinkedIn that generated plenty of interest and these were the results:
What do you most need to ‘weed’ out of your life or let go of, to flourish in 2022? The results below confirmed what I suspected:
- Toxic relationships 27%
- Fear of failure 31%
- Addiction to being too busy 42%
These are all things that can sabotage our best goals and intentions. I was not surprised that the addiction to being too busy came out ahead. We often use busyness to cover for our fears. If we are busy, we must be okay. If we are busy, we must be being really productive. If we are busy it means we must be successful. Right? Actually, wrong in many instances.
Love yourself enough to build different kinds of rest into your busy schedule beyond going to sleep at night so that you can build in regular 'space' to keep perspective on the questions above. Be aware of your addiction to busyness and make sure you consciously try and balance it out.
In this podcast, I share my journey with busyness addiction and how I try and balance it out with different kinds of rest -- just 20 minutes a day, tops.
January 27, 2022
Nikki Bush discusses how to narrow down where you decide to focus your energy, effort and attention so that you achieve more.
If you are like me, then you probably have too many goals, or a strategy that is not focused enough. You need to pare things down a bit to really win meaningfully in the year ahead.
This podcast covers:
• Self-reflection as a starting point
• The importance of writing it all down
• Editing your goals and strategy
• Being realistic
• Questions to help you filter out goals
• Taking things off your list
• Why you don’t have to do everything now
• Talking through your goals and ideas
• Turning goals into strategy
• Why less is more
January 7, 2022
It’s back to school time so we are chatting about how to deal with first term jitters. Did you used to suffer from first term jitters and how is your child handling things?
- Why do children experience first terms jitters?
- Is change good for children?
- What strategies can parents use to help their children stay calm?
- Why is routine so important?
- How can parents help their children keep perspective?
- How does going to school foster independence in children?
- How can parents stay calm?
November 25, 2021
Nikki Bush discusses the nuts and bolts of neuroplasticity to decrease stress and increase performance with Dr John Molidor, Emeritus Professor of Psychiatry at Michigan State University, College of Human Medicine. He holds the Certified Speaking Professional accreditation from the National Speakers Association (NSA) in the US one of just over 700 speakers in the world who have it, is past president of the NSA and was President of the Global Speakers Federation 2020-2021. Earlier this year he was the recipient of the very covetted, Cavett Award which celebrates and honours those members whose speaking careers demonstrate the spirit of sharing, guiding and inspiring other professional speakers. You will hear his generous spirit in this podcast.
This conversation covers:
- How we can help our brains to operate optimally.
- What neuroplasticity actually is and how it helps us to learn, unlearn and relearn anything at all at any stage of our lives
- The five step process we go through to learn anything or get anything done
- The importance of sleep in the learning cycle and to increase mental capacity – it’s not what you think and no, it’s not about having to get eight hours of sleep a night
- Tricks and hacks to help you to drop off to sleep when your mind is overactive
- Consistency as an ingredient in the performance of anything
- Different rhythms in our lives – the circadian rhythm and the ultradian rhythm and how they connect with peak performance and getting deep work done
- The need to ‘agitate’ the brain for growth and learning to take place
- The brain-body connection – they are not separate at all
- Using breathing to manage stress levels
- The power of consciously directing your brain
November 18, 2021
Nikki Bush discussing why we need to be part of our children’s digital safety early on, with Josh Ramsey from Be In Touch, an organisation that's all about family digital wellness; helping parents to educate, connect and protect children. Josh is a speaker (with a TEDx talk to his name too), educator and coach who watches trends in the digital space and translates them into everyday speak. He speaks from experience having suffered from digital addiction in his teens and 20s. Having completed a degree in psychology, philosophy and coaching, Josh spent his youth travelling the world working as a model, actor, and later as a stuntman. He has seen first-hand the illusion of the entertainment engine, and decided to pursue purpose over profit. These experiences combined with being an entrepreneur who has worked in organisational development, training, education and wellness give him a unique perspective into the emerging field of digital wellness. For more information visit www.beintouch.org
This conversation covers:
- Research statistics from a learner survey about their devices, connectivity and exposure
- The importance of helping school communities to figure out their biggest digital challenges from a list of many
- The world of blackmail, extortion, click-jacking, revenge porn and more that kids are exposed to
- The importance of drawing up an agreement/contract with your child BEFORE you give them their first smart phone
- Accountability, responsibility and consequences in the digital world
- Understanding brain development and the danger gap with devices
- Why kids need ‘fairy wheels’ when they first set out on the digital superhighway
- Why kids should not be sleeping with their phones in terms of their mental health
- How you can gain insight into your child’s digital life
- The case for parental control software as an extra set of senses, pair of eyes or AI side kick
- Why kids don’t tell you what’s going on in their digital lives
- Why digital safety starts at the beginning of your child’s digital journey – in primary school so that you can avoid a war in high school
November 4, 2021
Nikki Bush in conversation about high performance team work with Caspar Craven, a leading international authority in achieving big bold goals using a very human approach to building teams. Caspar is an accomplished entrepreneur who has built and sold businesses and worked in the corporate world as a chartered accountant, investment banker and CFO. He has sailed twice around the world – the first time was as the youngest crew member in the world’s toughest yacht race, The BT Global Challenge and the second time he circumnavigated the world with his wife and three young children all under 10 years of age. While sailing the Pacific Ocean he sold one of his businesses for a 7-figure sum. Caspar is a motivational and keynote speaker who uses his unique mix of experiences to inspire his audiences. His latest book, Be More Human: rethinking the rules of high-performance teamwork, was published in 2020. Visit www.casparcraven.com for more information.
This conversation covers:
- Putting people first instead of only running business by the numbers
- Put people first, results will follow
- The keys to effective teamwork
- The importance of listening and helping team members find themselves in your story
- How to balance the need for relentless action and caring for your team
- Self-reflection and being prepared to hear honest feedback about yourself
- Parallels between work and home life
- How you do anything is how you do everything
- What we see is all there is – how to keep top of mind awareness
- Where focus goes energy flows
- If you are running a team you are in the business of growing people
November 4, 2021
Nikki Bush discusses gender based violence with Ingrid Lotze who believes the world won’t change until we stop the lie, hide, repress, deny cycle that both victims and bystanders are trapped in. She draws on hard-learned lessons from being married to an abusive alcoholic; her work as volunteer in women’s empowerment; as well as her 25 years of business ownership. Ingrid is a two-time TEDx Speaker & TEDx panelist, a Diversity Equality & Inclusion advocate and gender equality champion. She co-founded and runs three businesses including Hers&His, a diversity and inclusion consultancy. For more information visit www.hers&his.co.za
This conversation covers:
- The conspiracy of silence
- How victims support the cycle
- How bystanders support the cycle
- Cycle of violence from generation to generation
- The problem with “not my business, not my problem”
- Ingrid’s 3-step solution
- Cultivating community and connection
- How to speak up early and often
- Eliciting support and building allies – what to put in play and in place
- GBV awareness in the business environment – how to create a safe space
- Rethinking norms that are hard wired
- The importance of curiosity to create shift
- How lie, hide, repress and deny plays out in gender-based violence, racism, diversity and inclusion
October 28, 2021
Nikki Bush in conversation with teen author and poet, Jess Robus, who shares her insights on teen mental health and talks about her about her first book, Slivers of Light. Published this year (2021), Slivers of Light contains poignant poetry that will move you as will this very honest 15 year old who will blow you away with her eloquence and insights. Jess is the youngest guest to ever appear on the Win @ Work and Life podcast.
This conversation covers:
- Jess’s interest and experience with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety
- Insights into some of the issues that are impacting on the mental health of teens
- The barriers to young people being open and honest about what they are going through
- Advice for anyone who finds themselves depressed or mentally challenged right now – teens or adults
- The realities of living with mental health issues
- How to make yourself more supportable
- Why you need to know yourself well and understand your condition and what can trigger it
- The importance of finding an outlet for self-expression
- Why Jess wrote the book, Slivers of Light
You can order your copy of Slivers of Light from www.jessrobus.com and you can also connect with her there about speaking to your group.
October 14, 2021
Nikki Bush in conversation with Gareth Woods, a leading expert in the esports and gaming industry who sheds an interesting light on video gaming. He is also the author of a new book, Go Play Inside – what video games can teach us about the game of life. He is also a fascinating case study in how to build a meaningful portfolio of experiences in a world where career security and job security are increasingly becoming a thing of the past.
For more information visit: www.nikkibush.com or www.thegarethwoods.com
October 7, 2021
Nikki Bush in conversation with the dynamic and effervescent, Khensani Nobanda, Group Executive: Group Marketing and Corporate Affairs at Nedbank. This podcast delves into the topic of bringing your true self to the table athentically which is part of the work-life integration formula.
This podcast covers:
- What bringing your true self to the table looks like
- Authenticity and vulnerability
- Communicating your goals to those who can help you get there
- Making yourself visible and being memorable
- The value of asking questions to open up opportunities for growth
- Negotiation and value – especially as a woman
- The value of experience in building a career
- How to raise your value and employability
- Knowing your worth and not settling for the offer on the table
September 28, 2021
Nikki Bush in conversation about the concept of antifragility with leadership expert, Rachael Nyaradzo Adams who says, “What If you can find new eyes to see things wisely even when you are going through some of the most difficult of times?” This is such a relevant topic for where we find ourselves today, in a deeply disrupted world.
For more information visit: www.nikkibush.com or www.narachileadership.com
September 22, 2021
Nikki Bush in conversation with Zanele Njapha, the Unlearning Lady as they take a refreshing look at modern tribalism. This goes beyond race, gender and religion and digs deeper into the tribes with which we associate ourselves and why it is important to change that up from time to time. How does tribalism help or hinder us in our quest to win @ work and life? Zanele is transitions and future of work speaker and is a contributor to Forbes & the Thought Leader section of the Mail & Guardian. She was voted #45 on Avance Media’s list of Top 100 Most Influential Young South Africans in 2019. For more information visit www.nikkibush.com and www.zanelenjapha.com
This conversation covers:
- Modern tribalism
- The impact of our association with various ‘tribes’
- The upside and downside of ‘tribes’
- How we contribute to upholding destructive tribalism
- The echo chamber effect and why we need to guard against it
- Consciously connecting with new and different ‘tribes’
- How ‘tribes’ contribute to diversity within organisations in a different way
September 17, 2021
Big decisions, small decisions, they all add up and take up space and mental energy. How are you handling decision fatigue? Are you taking shortcuts or avoiding making decisions entirely? How is this affecting the quality of your decisions at work or at home?
Here are some practical ways to avoid decision fatigue:
- Keep your body and your brain hydrated with water
- Eat small, regular snacks throughout the day to keep your glucose levels up
- Take power naps of 20 minutes
- Meditation also frees up the mind and re-energises it
- Get a good night’s sleep
- Make a list of all the major decisions you know you will have to make in the week ahead on a Sunday night (of course there will be many more that come at you all the time – I’m talking big decisions)
- Divide a page in half and write down the decisions on the left-hand side of the page that you are considering, and write down the action on the right-hand side. If you don’t yet know what action needs to be taken or what decision you are going to make, leave it blank.
- The fact that you have written it down opens it up for the answering. You are giving your brain permission to get on with it unconsciously, and surprisingly, when you get back to it consciously, the answer may be obvious without having to expend much energy on it at all.
- Plan to address big decisions first thing in the morning. If you can to get them out of your way, knowing you will make better decisions earlier in the day, the better off you will be.
September 15, 2021
Nikki Bush in conversation with futurist, economist and trends analyst, Bronwyn Williams about past, the present and the future. Bronwyn is a partner at Flux Trends with Deon Chang. Her research focuses on how macro socio-economic trends and emerging technologies will impact businesses, industries, and nations in the near and long term future. She is a guest lectures for leading business schools and is the the co-author of The Future Starts Now, published by Bloomsbury UK. She is a regular guest in the media and is also a member of the Association of Professional Futurists. For more information visit www.fluxtrends.com
This conversation covers:
- The challenges of disruption
- Postalgia, prostalgia and nostalgia
- Bouncing back not forwards
- Tending to your own garden first
- The trade-off between freedom and security
- Can we have it all?
- Pay as you go vs ownership economy
- Selling our kids the idea of a career vs finding your place in society and adding value
- Constructive aggression